9 Simple Ways To Last Longer In Bed With Your Partner During S3x

For most guys, the bedroom is probably the one place you don’t want to finish first. S3x experts (and, we assume, you) agree that nothing makes a guy feel more insecure than coming up short when it matters most. So if you’re plagued by this S3xual shortcoming, relax—there are numerous ways to boost your S3xual endurance and last longer in bed.
“All men have their own extending technique, from thinking about football or baseball or counting backwards in their heads,” says A.L. Harper, a S3x expert and former editor of a U.K.-based men’s magazine. “However, these distraction techniques can end up making guys worse in bed because they aren’t paying attention to their partner’s pleasure.”
If you’re curious to find out the real ways to last longer, so you don’t kill the mood for the both of you, check out these tips. We asked three top industry experts to share the advice they give their clients—no Viagra required.
1. Study the Kama Sutra
“There is a technique mentioned in the Kama Sutra for delaying ejaculations that basically comes down to training yourself to last longer,” says Harper. Start slowly—with no more than one “in/out” stroke every three seconds. “Then, add more strokes, slowly, over the course of 4 or 5 minutes, until you’re moving one stroke per second.” If you start to feel like you’re going to come, stop and “hold yourself inside your partner until you feel in control again, then begin the whole process again.”
2. Get out of your head
“Performance anxiety is the number-one killer of erections,” says Patti Britton, a board-certified clinical S3xologist. “Shift your thinking to a more confident inner voice, as opposed to a worried voice.” A “self-debilitating mindset” is what shuts guys down, she explains. “When you begin to feel anxiety, stop, take a breath, and get out of your head—focusing, instead, on the feelings your body is producing for you.”
3. Slow down
“Instead of the fast-paced jack-hammering style that many men are so fond of, try taking your time,” says Toyooka. S3x at a slower pace leads to a more connected experience for both people. “It’s more sensual because you’re caressing and exploring the rest of her body. Kiss her neck, nuzzle her ear, let your hands gently explore her body,” she says. The most important thing to keep in mind that will help you last longer? Enjoy the journey that leads to your destination.
4. Use a duration spray
If you’re still struggling to last longer, consider using a “delay spray,” like K-Y Duration. It’s an endurance enhancer that desensitizes the nerves in your pe.nis with as little as three sprays (and as many as 10). Relax, it’s not like novacane; the active ingredient is lidocaine (which has been proven safe and effective by the FDA). You’ll still enjoy sensations, too. Think of this as your key to turning a manic sprint into an immensely gratifying marathon.
5. Try a different kind of exercise
Dr. Britton suggests exercising the PC muscles (or pubococcygeus muscle, if we’re being technical). They’re the ones that stretch from your pubic to tail bone. To figure out how to squeeze and contract them, try stopping your urine flow while you’re in the middle of peeing. You’ll know it when you try it. Three sets of 15 reps per day should do the trick. “Daily PC muscle reps help a guy to literally pump himself up. Squeezing those muscles triggers good blood flow to the pe.nis, which in turn leads to mental confidence,” she says.
6. Practice the 7 and 9 method
Like the Kama Sutra method (mentioned in no. 1, above), Harper recommends the 7 and 9 technique. “It’s 7 fast in/out strokes, followed by 9 slow in/out strokes. Then repeat: 7 fast, 9 slow, 7 fast, 9 slow,” she says. “This rhythm is good for guys who don’t last quite as long as their partner needs, and good for the ladies, as it establishes a good rhythm for her stimulation too.”
7. Don’t go deep
“If you feel that continued deep thrusting will bring on an all-too-quick orgasm, try penetrating only the lower portion of her vagina—in other words, take more shallow thrusts,” says Toyooka. “Also, alternating between shallow and deep thrusts can make you last longer, and will also make the experience a lot more fun!”
8. Squeeze
Britton recommends you explore the “squeeze technique.” “There are three areas of the pe.nis where squeezing or applying pressure can help a man sustain or maintain an erection.” For the first, make a tight ring with the index finger and thumb around the base of the shaft when it is erect, simulating a penile ring. It can help a man keep blood flow to the engorged pe.nis. The second: Apply pressure on the underside of the head. “That’s a male hot spot, densely packed with nerves,” Britton says. And finally, pressing on the “perineum,” or the spot between the anus and the base of the testicles. “It will feel like the tip of the nose. If he presses with his finger, it will congest the flow of ejaculate and help quell the early release of the erection.”
9. Change things up
The best thing to do if you’re getting close to the edge? Alter your speed, advises human S3xuality expert Catherine Toyooka, the founder of Catherine Coaches S3x workshops. “Try teasing her,” she suggests. “Take your pe.nis out and rub just the head of it sensually up and down and between her labia. Vaginas have lots of nerve endings clustered in the lower portion of their vaginal canal, so this move will still be very enjoyable for her to experience.

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